At the bottom right of my blog, there's a Facebook warning about how I was locked out of an account, if you received friend requests, it wasn't me. 3 years ago, when we moved, FB let me into my main account, but refused to let me into my witch/pagan account because it "didn't recognize location" or some crap. Even though I had my password, back up emails, and whatever. Complete lock out.
Well, now it's different.
The other day, whilst googling for deity info, I was taken to a pic on FB, and I saw at the top log in it had my old pagan name Hearth Foxlynx. Dotted password and all that. I decided, what the Hel? I gave it a go. Facebook sent a code to my email and bibbity bam I was logged in.
3 years ago it was such a damn fight. Now just a email recovery.
I got into my FB and started a massive deletion of family photos, art, old posts, unfriendings, and HFO ads, sales, info etc. I left groups and unfollowed pages. Wiped that slate clean.
Some of my closest friends voted that I keep it, at least for a little while. I do miss my friends and family members who I don't see often. Not many of us have kept in contact via text or email. FB they're active on. And I feel that I have better control over my social media addiction. I have stronger rules for myself--I have a Bluesky and I have been doing well there. While I hate Meta, I've decided to keep this FB account for just a bit. At least until I remember why I deleted my old account in the first place--other than internet addiction.
Some of my rules are:
- No politics
- Low-to-no Reblogs/reposts
- Low feed scrolling
- 1 post of my own
- If I want to know how my friends are doing, go to friend list and click their names individually
- No drama
- Let stuff go
- If FB starts to take over my life again, delete it.
- No FB or Messenger on my phone.
- No Hearth Fox Oracle Business Page. Not again. Between unethical business owners bad mouthing each other and stirring up drama for followers, as well as scammers, copycats, algorithms, and bots--FB Business community is a cesspool of toxicity. No, thanks.
I'm also more private than I used to be.
Its been nice reconnecting with old friends, and rejoining one Heathen group that I've missed the most.
I've also done something brave and Friend Requested the other side of the family--the one that I lost when I cut my dad out of my life in 2015. There were other reasons for unfriending with that side, but it's been over 10 years and people are allowed to change. Plus many of them have messaged me over the years, finally seeing dad for who and what he is. Understanding why I made the decisions that I did. While others violated my privacy and tried to get me to turn against my husband, blaming him for my decisions, and other toxic BS. Gods know that I'm incapable of making decisions myself--it clearly has to be my husband's brainwashing.
Name calling reveals a lot about people. I grew up with my dad trying to brainwash me--never worked. Having him and his siblings claim that my husband was brainwashing me and keeping me from family is very telling! Typical domestic abuser script and playbook.
In 2023, at my mom's funeral, some of that side were there and they were warm to me. Now, people lie and I was overwhelmed by everything so my readings on them might've been inaccurate. My dad's brain is mush and he's not capable of hurting anyone anymore--and fam's thinking about putting him in a old folks home.
I've been thinking about showing up at family gatherings, again--one's where he's not. Just me at first--not gonna bring my kids yet. My plan was after his death, to reconnect with them, but that old bastard's still kicking.
You know what else is revealing? Social media. When my family joined FB years ago, their ugliness just came vomiting out. Of course, the internet is also a great place for people to lie about who they are, but not my family. Their true faces came out and I was appalled. Horrified, really.
Like I said, people are allowed to change. I certainly have.
Now, I'm older, smarter, and psychically stronger, too. I think FB will be a good gage for reconnection. Have they changed? Would it be safe for me to reconnect in person? Guess we'll see. I wish they were all on a non-Meta social media platform, but they're not. Right now my safety matters more to me than boycotting Meta (I will not be on anything else Meta, though).
Just know that the FB is not business related--it is my personal page. I'm not likely to accept friend requests from strangers. But if I've met ya before, then probably.
Thanks for all of the support. I hope you have a good, safe, weekend.
Face to the Sun.
Trust in Joy.
Follow the Foxes and the Bees...
- Priestess Foxlyn
